Dallin h oaks dating talk
What this means is that I have had very little opportunity over the years to date girls that I am interested in.
This young man writes not only about his unattractiveness and the toll it is taking on his dating life but also about his unhappiness.
An anonymous letter with only a post office box address was delivered to Elder Oaks.
From the anonymous letter: I am writing to you because I am unhappy and have been unhappy for years. The problem is that I am not a [physically] attractive person.
I am at the point right now that I need someone to give me clarification and guidance so I can begin to exercise faith to change my life; otherwise, I feel I’ll never change. I don’t have any abnormal growths or anything, but I’m just not what girls would call good looking.
Most girls think I have an awesome personality, super genuine and nice, and have everything going for me.
Further, when you look at the skin-deep beautiful people of movie stardom and see how often they move in and out of marriage, it is apparent that attractiveness is not synonymous with happiness. Even in the life of Christ himself, physical beauty was not important; and consequently, we should not let it become too important to us.
To highlight this truth consider this description of the Savior in the fifty-third chapter of Isaiah:‘Who hath believed our report? For he shall grow up before him as a tender plant . You ask if I am concerned about what I will look like in the next life.
Or compare the attractiveness of some people before twenty and after fifty.