Dating or not
I wanted him to know that even though our relationship was founded on sex, it could become more than that.
Thus officially began our casual affair, which lasted six months. Only when something popped up that made us think of one another.
When I initially told him I needed something less serious, he withdrew emotionally, fearing I’d hurt him.
So I took the risk, and invited him on a proper date — to see “The Slutcracker,” a sex-positive spoof of “The Nutcracker.” We grabbed some drinks before the show.This is partly due to the fact that a relationship’s success is generally determined through its longevity, the most successful being “until death do us part.” The very nature of a causal relationship goes against this premise.While I’m sure there are a few unicorns out there, who have dated the same person casually for decades, that’s not typically how a casual relationship plays out.Drunkenly, on a stoop on Commercial Avenue, we did a final reflection on our relationship. This casual dating thing was new for both of us, and yes, we both had some regrets, but overall it worked.He regretted having a wall up, he said, something he did to protect himself.
But our relationship didn’t naturally fall into this comfortable groove.