Sex and the city speed dating episode
In the episode, “Pick-A-Little, Talk-A-Little”, Miranda asks Carrie’s then boyfriend, Jack Berger, to analyse the post-date behaviour of a potential love interest. Charlotte, in the throws of divorcing her ‘perfect’ husband, meets lawyer Harry Goldenblatt.
Because the man declined Miranda’s invitation to come up to her apartment after the date, stating that he has an early meeting, Berger concludes, “He’s just not that into you”, adding, “When a guy’s really into you, he’s coming upstairs, meeting or no meeting.” No excuses, if he likes you, he’ll make it happen! He is everything that Charlotte shouldn’t want in a partner: bald, hairy, overweight, crude, and very sweaty. What begins as a rebound suddenly becomes much more serious. He may not be a hotshot lawyer like she’s used to dating, but he is kind, warm, and makes her laugh. The moral here is to write down that list of everything you want in a man – then tear it up!
Only men with small minds and big egos are threatened by successful women. Samantha noted dryly, “Before you buy the car, you take it for a test drive.” Charlotte discovered to her horror (on the eve of her wedding! While he appeared perfect in appearance, status, background, and wealth – as a person, Trey just wasn’t Prince Charming. Through turbulent times, rocky relationships and countless heartbreaks, one of the biggest things Sex and the City has taught us, is to never settle for someone who just isn’t right for us, or makes us change, or miserable.
Carrie believed, “If the world’s fattest twins can find love, there is hope for all of us.
She wakes the next day to find Berger gone, and a POST IT note on her laptop, saying ‘I’m sorry. Don’t hate me.’ Later, in a club Carrie advises a group of strangers (in a kind of slightly psychotic way) that there IS a good way to break up with someone – by having the guts and the courtesy to say it to a woman’ s face. (In a bid not to be dateless for Charlotte’s wedding?
So take note, (no pun intended) if you are gonna ditch someone, don’t email/text/ or god forbid leave a post it note, instead call them up, or better still, have a face-to-face chat. ) Every time she mentioned being a lawyer, the men all switched off. She became a ‘stewardess.’ Immediately all the men at the multi-dating event were smitten.
) Do you remember playing the game, ‘Which SATC character are you?
’ And everyone hoping that they wouldn’t be Charlotte?
See more in The Biggest Dating Mistake: The Check-List There are ways to tell someone that you’re just not that into them. Carrie, after a tumultuous time with writer Jack Berger, gives him another chance when he shows up at her apartment with flowers.How about those fabulous outfits that Carrie never could have afforded on her writer’s salary in a million years?And all the amazing quotes that Samantha dryly delivered?In her mind New York had too many men and too little time…If there ever was Queen of Single-town, it would be our Samantha.
I should have listened when she stated, “Don’t play hard to get, with a man who’s hard to get.” Instead I got with every type of man.